A Little Update From Me to You

Ok, well as most of you know I post every Monday for Kayla Lords’s Masturbation Monday meme, but I’ve also been working my arse off writing a novella which I finished last month, and an anthology of flash fiction and short stories (this isn’t quite finished yet).Evernight publishing banner

I’m really happy to say that I’ve just signed a contract with Evernight Publishing. They’re going to publish my hot, m/m/f menage novella called ‘A Taste For Three‘ in August this year.

*Cue me doing spontaneous happy dancing and intermittent squeals of excitement*

I’ll post more details about the story nearer the time of its release.

It’s been a real roller coaster. I only found out they wanted the story a week ago: I’ve already done the blurb, cover art sheet and signed the contract. My head is spinning – I can’t believe how fast it’s moving. Evernight do great covers, so I can’t wait to see what they do for ‘A Taste For Three‘.

I will have a limited amount of ARC copies so if anyone wants one in exchange for an honest review, just DM me @Northerngirl76 or email me rebeccablackwords@gmail.com.  I’ll also be looking for blogs to help me blast that baby into the ether. So please get in touch if you’re interested in hosting me around the time of its release. Any support will be greatly appreciated.

Thanks for all your support and encouragement with my writing over the past 24 weeks. Every bit of feedback and every comment has helped and motivated me. You’re an awesome group of people and I feel really lucky to be a part of this little part of the net!

Rebecca x

 

Our Sexual Confidence

A while ago a friend of mine tentatively said they had some thoughts they wanted to write down that might be more suited to my blog than theirs and would I be prepared to post their stuff? Sure, I said. So here it is… I think it might resonate with a few of you like it did with me.

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Is this where we’ll find our sexual confidence? Probably not!

Where does it all come from: our sexual confidence – our very sexual being. Don’t you want answers – don’t we all want an unreservedly confident sexuality? It leaves us with other questions: can we develop sexual confidence, and if we can, then how?

I don’t mean the artificial pumped up confidence of a porn star, or the air brushed plasticity of a model peering into a lens, airbrushing away the truth. No – I am talking about real confidence, regardless of shape or sexual orientation, to be totally confident in pursuing your sexual desires, to be open about your secrets and needs.

Our sexuality is of course deep-rooted in our being and largely unchangeable. Some religious groups would seek to convert people who stray from the righteousness of heterosexual desire and the inevitable marriage and 2.4 children. It would appear that our genetic inheritance would make this improbable to say the least – the X chromosome called Xq28 would have a lot to answer for (the supposed gay gene! Gasp!) it may seem.

Of course, how we are nurtured makes a difference. Though it won’t likely change our sexuality one little bit, it can give us confidence in our sexual feelings and ourselves. Parents who speak openly and honestly with their children about sex can likely have a lifelong positive influence, though friends attitudes and behaviour is likely to have a bigger sway. This is likely the chief reason why our confidence waxes and wanes along with our relationships: our partner, or partners, can leave an indelible mark on our sexual psyche and determine how confident we are, or can be.

Ultimately, though, our life-long sexual confidence will only come from within ourselves. It is bound up with self-esteem – our attitudes to our bodies – our lumpy bits, our little bit too small and little bit too big parts – how we see ourselves when we look in the mirror.

How do we change negative views of these things? Talking of course. But not just talking to friends and partners, instead, it is mainly talking to ourselves. The secret, hidden voice in our head that negotiates everything we do.

We can read about sex and write about it – this can help change that little voice in our head. The more we self-talk, read, write, explore with our partners, the more our confidence can grow.

No doubt, the biggest boost to our sexual confidence will come from our experience: enjoying our failures and learning from our successes – the time we coaxed a smile or a devastating moan. We remember and this gives us precious reserves of sexual confidence.

The biggest thing we learn: trust. We need to trust ourselves to have a confident sexuality. We need to ignore the negative voices in our head, or the nonsense in magazines and in posters about our bodies and how acceptable our desires and kinks are to others.

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The clue in the word, confidence. It comes from the Latin ‘confidere’ – to have full trust. Confidence in our sexual selves ebbs and flow, pulled down or lifted up by trust. Trust we gain from a partner or friend, trust we gain in ourselves.

It is well known that older men and women develop more sexual confidence. Perhaps it is the learning from sexual experiences: the drunken failures, heart-breaking endings and sensational moments. Or maybe it is through all the failures and successes, we gradually learn to trust our instincts and trust our sexual selves. I’d like to think that is the answer.

We may need to draw from that well of trust, be kind to ourselves and let the little voice in our heads (this is not crazy I promise!) telling us to trust ourselves be heard over the din of our insecurities and our sex and relationship hang ups.

By Innocent Bystander

Hot blogs: Quick picks

Hot blogs quick picks

I’ve only been blogging for a few months and before that I didn’t read any blogs – what was I doing with my life? (I was reading a shit tonne of erotica *cough*). Anyhoo… I have now discovered some absolute gems and I thought I’d share a selection of them with you. If, like me, you don’t have much time to look on the infinite black hole that is the internet, these links might be useful to you.

About Malin James:

Malin is the best kind of blogger, she writes beautifully, both erotic fiction and essays and she makes me think. I’ll be honest with you, I have to be on my A game when I read her blog, her intelligence shines through in her writing and if I’ve just come off a three hour stint of building lego with my three year old it takes me a while to shift gears! But I always make the time to read her posts. Classy, intelligent and entertaining (plus she rocks a corset).

About Exhibit A:

I don’t even know where to start with this guy. I’ve just read a couple of his erotic stories and I feel like I’m going to spontaneously combust. Hot doesn’t even cover it. I love the way he writes, it can be raw, dark and edgy or tender and sexy; whichever way it is, it hits a lot of my buttons. Reading his stuff makes me want to be twenty something again but this time with Skype, broadband and knowing what I do about my kinks now.

His post On My Sexuality (part 2) describes an interesting visit he had to Toronto. I spent a lot of time in Toronto in my twenties but not one of those trips included a bisexual threesome – unlike Exhibit A – I feel unreasonably disappointed in myself. I urge you to go and check his blog out, it’s insightful, sexy and funny.

About Girl On The Net:

I’m not going to say too much about GotN because she has more followers than the population of a small country so you’ll already know about her. What I will say is, she’s one of my favourite bloggers and she makes me laugh out loud –  a lot. Sexy, funny, uninhibited, raunchy and informative. Her book is great too.

About Go Deeper Daily:

Go Deeper Press’ daily blog with book excerpts, free erotic short stories, interesting blog topics and discussions. I just read the opening excerpt to Jacob Louder’s new book ‘M’ on there and holy shit it’s good. I 1-clicked it – couldn’t resist. There’s always something good to read on there, new authors to discover and it’s owned by two talented authors – Lana Fox and Angela Tavares (who writes as Jacob Louder).

Obviously these are just the tip of the iceberg, if you have any you’d like to share please comment. Hope you find something that interests you. Thanks for reading. Rx

 

An Intimate Education #EWBD Charity Anthology

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It’s been a while since I mentioned this anthology that I edited with Emily Dubberley for Erotic World Book Day.

ALL PROCEEDS GO TO BROOK – THE SEXUAL HEALTH CHARITY.

It’s packed full of 22 amazing pieces of diverse erotica – I reckon there’s something in there for everyone. All the stories were kindly donated by incredibly talented authors and I’ve got to say that editing it was a real *cough* pleasure. Honestly, I was a tingly mess most nights while I worked on it.

Here’s a little excerpt from my femdom story – A Lesson In Surrender

“Take off your coat and your t-shirt. I want to see you.”

He placed his clothes over the back of a chair by the door. The house was warm, but goose bumps still scattered on his skin. He stood before her, shoulders back, arms by his side. Her eyes showed her approval as they roamed over his lightly muscled chest and tight stomach.

“Turn around and put your hands on the wall.”

He turned, closing his eyes as he placed his hot hands on the cold surface. The tension across his back was almost unbearable; he needed her touch, but he knew he would have to wait.

He heard her heels click on the solid wood floor as she walked towards him.

“I’m going to teach you how to give in.” She whispered in his ear. Her warm breath caressing his neck.

Here’s a list of the authors in the anthology:

Anna Sansom

Lucy Felthouse

Charlotte Howard

Rebecca Black

Kay Jaybee

Madeline Moore

Cara Sutra

Helen J Perry & Adria Kane

Tabitha Rayne

A.M. Hartnett

Oleander Plume

Kayla Lords

Vanessa de Sade

James Gent

Anna Sky

Lily Harlem

Victoria Blisse

Rhyll Biest

Neil Davis

Lexie Bay

Paris Orsini

Emily Dubberley

That’s an amazing list, right? So many successful authors who all made time to write a piece for this anthology. All that talent makes the pages sizzle!

Please support a great charity by buying a copy. Enjoy! Rx

An Intimate Education – Amazon UK, Amazon US, Amazon AUS, Amazon CAN

Tabitha Rayne: Erotic Author and Artist

Tabitha Rayne is an incredibly talented lady. Not only does she write steamy hot erotica, but she is also an erotic artist, entertaining blogger and a genuinely lovely person. She makes me laugh and her lovely, supportive words have made me cry (I was tired and emotional – she didn’t mean to!)

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That moment… by Tabitha Rayne

Tabitha is a member of the Brit Babes, a group of British erotica authors who have released several anthologies together. Their free book, ‘Sexy Just Walked Into Town‘, was my introduction to Tabitha and her short story ‘The Scribe’ is actually one of my all-time favourites. It is a sensual, erotic tale of a woman’s need to paint her arousal on her body until the ink drying on her skin feels like “…being licked by a tiny angel.” She has a wonderful way with words, imaginative, sometimes amusing, sometimes dark and edgy; but always hot and oh lordy does she know how to write good sex!

Her work ranges from dystopian erotic fantasy, in ‘The Meeting Place’ trilogy, to her take on billionaires, in ‘Sexy Just Got Rich‘, and naughty ghosts in ‘Mia’s Books‘. Check out her book list here. Tabitha also contributed a fantastic story to the Erotic World Book Day anthology, ‘An Intimate Education‘ (all proceeds go to the sexual health charity Brook).

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She is one of the few authors where I enjoy her blog almost as much as her stories. There was was one post that resonated with me early on and has stuck with me ever since. She wrote it around the time of the Blogger censorship debacle. The Spectre is an eloquent piece about the constrictions of censorship and the effect it has on the people who are censored. After I read that piece, my curiosity piqued, I had a look around her blog only to discover her erotic drawings. Go take a look – they’re beautiful. Long may she continue to write, draw and create because the world would be a very dull place without her work.

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From Behind by Tabitha Rayne

Thanks for reading, Rx

Review: Tie Me Up edited by F Leonora Solomon

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Blurb:

B is for bondage in BDSM, and Tie Me Up is the perfect place to explore just that.

The 19 stories in this anthology do not fetishize bondage. Instead, Tie Me Up shows how couples explore it as a sexy romantic option–sexy underscored!

New and seasoned authors fill this anthology with steamy tales that will keep you tied up…unable to put this collection down!

My review:

This might be a bit of a struggle to write because I’m still fanning myself and considering a quick trip upstairs to sort myself out.

This anthology is good and I mean really good.

I’ve read a lot of anthologies, so many have only one or two decent stories, then I end up skipping a load and wondering why I bothered to waste my money. Not this one. This is a collection of consistently great stories that F. Leonora Solomon has put together. The writing is high quality and the authors have taken the brief and run with it in exciting and very interesting ways.

I had my favourites: Oleander Plume’s ‘Cops and Robbers’, Jane Gilbert’s ‘By A Thread’, Tomio Hall-Black’s ‘What Isn’t Necessary Is’ to name a few. But to be honest there were so many good stories in here it’s hard for me to single them out.

I really liked how the authors explored the use of bondage within relationships. There’s plenty of variations on the theme to keep it interesting from Femdom action (always love that) to sky diving (brilliantly unique slant), LGBT, a harem and multiple partners (another one of my favourites – you can see why I loved this, right?)

I’d really recommend this book, not just to those bondage lovers out there, but also if you’ve got a little germ of an idea brewing in the back of your mind that you’d like to try something new. Lots of great ideas in here!

Rebecca x

Taking A Tumblr

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Ever since I was inspired by that awesome gif on Kayla Lords site to write my first Masturbation Monday piece, I’ve been looking for images to accompany the erotic shorts that I write for that meme.

I started off looking on Twitter, after all there’s a ton of profiles that just post filthy pictures. Selena Kitt’s is always good for some dirty picture action (she broke my Tumblr cherry), but it takes time trawling through and I got a bit annoyed by that, so now I just follow her on tumblr – much easier.

I discovered Tumblr a few months ago. Oh my god, it’s nothing short of manna from heaven for a voyeur like me. I knew about it way before I joined, but I had enough on my plate without joining another social media site, so I put it off. I regret those wasted weeks, I really do.

So now I’d like to stand up and say: “My name is Rebecca Black and I bloody love Tumblr.”

It’s awesome. I scroll through my dashboard until I find an image that catches my attention and an erotic scene plays out in my head and I write it down. Every single Masturbation Monday piece that I’ve written has originated like this – it’s never ending sex-fuelled-dirty-sexual-eye-candy inspiration. Genius.

I can’t take any credit for the images I post with my erotic shorts, except to say that I chose them out of the pool of blogs on there. But people have started to ask me about them (F. Leonora Solomon and Emily Dubberley to be exact!) Up to now I haven’t promoted my Tumblr blog (mainly because it’s just dirty-sexy pictures and filthy gifs) but if you’re into that, have a look if you want. You can find me at rebeccablackwords.tumblr.com – go be inspired!

Thanks for reading,

Rebecca x

 

The Morning After #EWBD

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So it’s the morning after and I think the adrenaline that has kept me going for the past 5 weeks has started to wear off. Crash, bang, wallop! There may have been a few tears, but they were triggered by the kind words of the lovely Tabitha Rayne. So not such a bad thing really.

What a wild and crazy ride the past month has been. We went from Emily Dubberley’s small message on Facebook saying, what about celebrating erotica on World Book Day? To hundreds of people being involved in the discussion group, writing a story then editing 21 more for the anthology, the stress of trying to get it ready and uploaded in time for the party (Kev Blisse you’re awesome), getting Brook on board, preparing for the Facebook party, hosting part of it, people / organisations donating over £1500 worth of prizes (Cara Sutra you’re amazing) and getting mentioned in loads of blogs and the national press!!! My head is spinning.

The amount of people who have been involved has been staggering and everyone has worked so hard to pull everything together, tweeting and sharing posts and getting the word out about what we were trying to do. The erotica community is strong and supportive; I’m so proud and happy to be a part of it.

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Anyway, if you missed it, we had the Erotic World Book Day Party on Facebook last night where we launched An Intimate Education: an anthology of 22 stories from some truly fantastic erotic authors. It’s climbing the Amazon charts as we speak after an absolutely fantastic response from people last night. All profits go to Brook, a sexual health education charity for young people. They do great work and I’m really happy to be part of something that’s raising money for them.

We also released the list that we compiled over the last month 100 Modern Erotic Classics That you’ve Never Heard Of. What I love the most about this list is its diversity, there’s something on there for everyone. It caters to different kinks, sexualities and fantasies. I’m going to be working my way through it over the next year.

The party is over but we still have work to do. It’s looking like #EWBD will be back next year. Just think what we’ll be able to do with so much time to plan! Exciting times ahead. Here’s the website if you want to keep up with what we’re doing. eroticworldbookday.co.uk

Thank you for all your support and a massive shout out to Emily Dubberley who drove it all forwards to make the idea a reality!

Rebecca x

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Cover reveal: An Intimate Education (charity anthology)

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Here it is people!!! The anthology I edited with Emily Dubberley for Erotic World Book Day. All profits will go to Brook, the fantastic sexual health education charity.

There are some fantastic authors in there: Lily Harlem, Kay Jaybee, Lucy Felthouse, Anna Sansom, Tabitha Rayne, Lexie Bay, A.M Hartnett, Victoria Blisse, Madeline Moore – just to name a few off the top of my head.

Plus a new story from me with some Femdom action.

Twenty-two stories and something for everyone: straight, lesbian, gay, transexual, BDSM, Femdom…. it’s a cornucopia of awesomeness!!!

Please help me to spread the word – it’s a truly great cause.

Blurb:

“Featuring 22 erotic stories from authors across the globe, An Intimate Education spans a range of sexualities, genders and desires. The stories show the diversity of erotica, taking in romantic sex, kinky sex, paranormal sex and a lot more besides. All stories show that safe can be sexy.Created to celebrate the first ever Erotic World Book Day (#EWBD), all profits from An Intimate Education will go to sexual health and well being charity, Brook.”

We’ll be celebrating Erotic World Book Day on Facebook. March 5th 7.00pm till midnight. There are some truly amazing prizes to be won, lots of fun chat with erotic authors, excerpts and there’s bound to be some spanking banter! I can’t wait. I’ll be hosting 8pm to 9pm. Hopefully ‘see’ you there.

A World of Erotica: Beyond 50 Shades

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With the upcoming film release of 50 Shades everyone’s either talking about it or trying to ignore it. Apparently, even fire-fighters are ready for the erotic onslaught http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-london-31428072! There have been some insightful blogs (see girlonthenet) and some hilarious 50 Shades inspired articles and videos (see Krista McHarden’s Cosmo piece and the Trojan condom ad).

The silver-tie-laden bandwagon is fast rolling into every town to deliver spanks and a little lashing of media sensation. But is the controversy worth it? Crucially, are the books worth reading? Will the film be worth watching?

I fall firmly into the –  I read the books, (once 3 years ago). I liked them (didn’t love them), I’ll go and see the film – to see how they handle the content and because I want to be able to form my own opinion rather than read other people’s – camp.

I have no issue with people who love the 50 Shades series (my mother-in-law has just finished reading them for the third time!) and I don’t want people telling me what I should and shouldn’t read; what I should or shouldn’t like. If they did, there’d be no gentle initiation – they’d get a clear and distinct “Fuck Off!” from me.

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Like many readers, it was one of the first books that I read that involved BDSM. It whet my appetite for more and I rapidly realised from reading more complex books that 50 Shades is only the tip of the iceberg as far as D/s relationships go in erotica.

My only issue with it, and really my issue is with the media rather than the book, is that society has reduced erotica down to this singular series of books. We need to look beyond billionaires (when did being a millionaire not measure up by the way?), grey ties and bondage paraphernalia (although it does have its moments *cough*).

It wasn’t just Christian’s ‘red room of pain’ door that was opened – a world of erotica has beckoned for many. That is a good thing. Let freedom ring with the sound of chains on bedposts!

Erotica is such an incredibly diverse genre, from BDSM to paranormal, menage to an amazing range of LGBT stories. I am a passionate reader and writer of erotica. I love it and wish that it was more widely acceptable. But recently I found out that an online friend has been turned down for a job because she reads and blogs about erotica. So even though everyone and their mother-in-law has read 50 Shades, we’re still not really ‘ok’ with it. (That’s a whole other blog).

It’s a crazy world and I don’t pretend to understand it half the time. But what I will do is promote erotica in my little space on the net for all I’m worth. I get excited about some books and I love to share that. I think it’s fantastic when another reader loves a book that I recommend; I’d just love to see some of these books that I love hitting the best seller lists too.

So here’s the main point of this blog, forget the Fifty Shades furore for a moment. There’s something more promising than watching a dysfunctional billionaire and it is happening on March the 5th.

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It is my hope that as many of you as possible will join me and an amazing range of erotic writers on March 5th to celebrate Erotic World Book Day. Go and like the page and we’ll keep you posted about the upcoming event. Some fantastic British authors are involved, Emily Dubberley, Lucy Felthouse, Maxim Jacubowski, Cara Sutra (award winning sex blogger) and plenty from the other side of the pond.

We’ll be producing a Top 100 Contemporary Erotica Books list, and most exciting of all an anthology ‘An Intimate Education’ (all proceeds going to the fantastic sexual health charity – Brook). There will be a Facebook party, amazing prizes and giveaways (seriously the prizes are awesome lots of sex toys and books) There will also be lots of naughtiness and huge potential for spanking innuendo!

We should harness the attention being lavished on the erotic tale of Anastasia and take people beyond 50 Shades into the spankingly exciting world of the erotica books we know and love. Come and share that love with us on March 5th and find some new erotic books to read.

Rebecca x